How I Understand the Law of Attraction

August 14th – The moon is resting on my windowsill tonight, as if it came closer just to listen. 

The Law of Attraction is one of those concepts that's been both deeply romanticized and endlessly criticized. Some call it magic. Others call it delusion.

I'm not a coach, not a teacher, not a preacher. I'm just someone who's sat quietly with these ideas, turned them over in my mind, and noticed how they've played out in my own life.

For me, the Law of Attraction isn't about "manifesting" a brand-new car by Friday or scripting your way into a perfect life. It's not about forcing happy thoughts or pretending you're okay when you're not.

It's about resonance. The idea that our inner world — our beliefs, our expectations, our emotional tone — tends to echo in our outer experience.

The way I see it, I believe in influence, not control. I believe we can shape the way we move through the world, but not command it like a puppet.

Neville Goddard, one of the Law of Attraction teachers whose work I've read quite a lot, put it like this: "You are the operant power."

To me, that means we have creative influence over our experience, but not over every single event. Life is still life — unpredictable, messy, and sometimes utterly beyond our understanding.

I think where people get hurt with LOA is when it's presented as a guarantee: "If you didn't get what you wanted, you must have done it wrong." That's not empowerment, that's shame wrapped in glitter.

Why I still believe in it (in my own way)

Because I've seen how my thoughts and emotions shift my perception. I've felt how focusing on what feels good doesn't just change my mood, it changes the opportunities I notice, the people I connect with, the choices I'm willing to make.

But I've also learned that sometimes, even when your heart is wide open and your vision is clear, life says no. Or not yet. And that's okay.

The mirror is closer than it appears

One of the most radical ideas I've learned from Neville is that the world is a mirror. Not just reflecting what we are conscious of, but what we are unconscious of too.

When I shift my assumptions — about myself, about others, about what's possible — the reflection shifts too. Sometimes subtly, like a new kindness from a stranger.
Sometimes wildly, like an opportunity I could never have planned.

The mirror is close. Sometimes uncomfortably close.
It doesn't lie, but it can be re-shaped, not by force, but by the quiet, persistent choosing of a new internal story.

My Law of Attraction

It's not a cosmic vending machine. It's a conversation. Between my inner state and the life I'm living.

When I choose thoughts that feel lighter, I meet lighter moments.
When I soften my self-talk, the world softens around me.

And when things don't happen the way I'd hoped, I try to remember:
Maybe the lesson wasn't about getting the thing.
Maybe it was about becoming the version of me who could reach for it at all.

Have you ever experienced this? Noticing how your internal shifts seemed to ripple outward into your life?

Softly,
Selflavie

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